Why you, my love?

 

I've loved you since I was small.

 

Since I was old enough to read a book, sew a seam, watch a film, read a recipe, or wander an art gallery, you've captured my heart.

 

You are everything that is good, and cultured, and beautiful in the human race.

 

You value history and art and opera and ballet, seeking always to share that which is enlightened and lovely in the human existence.

 

We've spent time together, you and I.

 

I've had the privilege of observing you at close quarters and getting to know you as something more than a pretty face.

 

You tug at my heart strings with your grace and light, and memories of time spent with you, make me smile when I am low.

 

In my life, I strive to take all that is good in you, and share it with my family day to day.

 

You are more than a monument or a great city to me.

 

You embody the me I want to be.

 

Gracious, strong of heart and mind, intelligent, and mindful always of the history and culture surrounding you. Living in the moment, enjoying the beauty in each day, savouring the little pleasures in life often. You've taught me so much.

 

Why you, my love, Paris?

 

Why you?

 

We share your pain today. Our tears are many and our sorrows great.

 

Five Star Frou-Frou #27...real, true Frou-Frou...

    How could I NOT feature Rita's gorgeous Chrissy Missy over at Panopoly. I swear I've never seen a more adorable Christmas idea! Please click on the pic to see more....   Click on the collage below to see a beautiful tribute to Monet on her gorgeous, simply titled Penny Wise...     And please check out Antonellas stunning gold tealight holders, dipped in gold glitter...I always say life's not right without bling!     So many pretties...I could have featured every single link last week. What a visual feast it was! Thankyou all so much!  

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War on TV Chefs #2..Menu planning....back to basics...

I used to think menu planning meant leafing through my library of cookbooks, my favourite magazines and recipes scribbled down when watching TV, to decide what to cook, then buying what I needed to do that. We ate well, but it cost me a fortune, and I could never figure out why I had so much stuff left going off in the fridge by the end of the week. Of course it was the tub of sour cream used once, the punnet of herbs that I only needed a tablespoon of, the avocado that I only used half of, and so on. Madness.   Menu planning for a family on a budget is very different to that idea.   There are three essentially elements to family menu planning, and these are the ones I teach to the young families I currently work with.   They are:   Budget Schedule Nutritional requirements and food preferences   That's it. No big secret.   It means making food that can be easily cooked and served in a timely fashion, that your family likes to eat, and is within your budget constraints.   For so many young families though, this is a really difficult thing. Everyone is so busy, incomes can be unpredictable for all kinds of reasons, kids can be picky, food allergies are often involved (far more so than a decade or two ago) and often the thing that fits the Budget-Schedule-Food Preferences framework, is either frozen meal, purchased pre-prepared components, or takeaway. Marketeers know this and are happy to relieve you of your hard earned money for the convenience they provide.   What I've been aiming to do in my sessions with families, is to show that real food, wholesome, fresh food, is within their reach and can be so much cheaper than any processed, pre-packaged or ready prepared food. They're always astounded at what they can afford once they eliminate the not-so-good choices from their shopping list and pantry.   Accept too, that if you do this properly once, you may not have to revise it for years, if ever. Most families tend to eat the same thing over and over, so we plan around that, allowing for a bit of adventurous eating now and again, for variety.   1. The very first thing you need, before you start any lists or plans, is containers for storage, and a clean out and stocktake of the refrigerator and pantry. In doing that, you'll see what you still have that can be turned into a meal, you won't double up on purchases, and you'll make room for the lovely meals you're going to prepare to make busy nights easier.   In the interests of starting small for storage, I suggest a packet each of medium and large freezer bags, and a dozen takeaway style containers. These are available in discount stores for about $2 for 6. So that's an investment of around $5 to save about $35-$50. Add those to your shopping list now.  

    2. Now get out your family's schedule for the next week. That would be your diary, calendar, phone or computer...whatever you use to remind you of what's coming up. We're going to plan around what's happening and where everyone has to be for the week.   Just as an example, looking at breakfasts first, on work and school days you'd need a quick, easy, nutritious breakfast. On Saturdays perhaps, when many people play a sport, you'll need something quick but a bit more substantial or even something everyone can eat in the car. Sundays are always a great day for a cooked breakfast and having that luxury to look forward to is a good thing when on a budget. A lavish cooked breakfast is much less expensive than a luxury lunch or dinner for entertaining too. If like many, you have church services to attend on a Sunday, then perhaps it's a quick breakfast, and a lovely home cooked brunch upon return.   Lunches might differ according to whether you have children, and what age they are. Lunches for adults in the family need to be planned for as well. There is no reason whatsoever, to be buying lunches if you are on a budget. That's crazy stuff.   Dinners are always the most challenging, and the planning and ingredients for dinners tend to take up the most substantial part of your time and budget, so this requires plenty of thought. So in pencil, just note down, 'family home', 'quick',  'get your own' or 'treat', and we'll change that shortly. This is just for inspiration.   3. Next is to write down your family's favourite meals and snacks. That can be takeaway too, because we're going to try to modify those favourites for home preparation. Maybe they love McDonalds bacon and egg McMuffins on the way to school once a week, perhaps it's Kentucky Fried Chicken with mashed potato and gravy on the way home from sport at 8pm, or a particular type of pizza. Maybe their most favourite thing in the world is sausages and chips. That's okay too. This list is going to become your rotating dinner menu plan, so write down as many things as you can. Even ask the family for their input. They can't complain if it's their idea.   Now you're ready to start your menu plan.   I like to use this template...   http://www.perfectlyproduce.com/FREE_meal_plan_template.html   ...because it's a seven day plan, with all meals and snacks listed, and there's even room for your prep.   Print one out, grab your pen and a cuppa, and let's get started.   What did find when you did your fridge and pantry stocktake? Maybe some rice or pasta, some frozen vegetables or limp veges in the crisper? A bit of bacon? The end of a packet of cheese? This is where you start to get creative. Odds and ends of pasta, some egg and a bit of bacon and cheese easily becomes a treat when the pasta is cooked and cooled, the egg, cheese and diced bacon added, and the mixture baked till firm, in lightly oiled muffin pans, as a savoury afternoon tea or light meal. Sad veges always get baked into a crustless quiche or made into soup or vegetable ragout, in our house. The dog gets his share mixed into his food too. He particularly loves grated apple and carrot.   Soft fruit is either frozen to use in smoothies, or made into jam for gifting to friends and family. You can make any quantity of jam by simmering equal amounts by weight, of sugar and fruit, with a squeeze of lemon added. Annabel over at The Bluebirds are Nesting swears by the lemon, and she's the queen of jam making! I've often made it even without the lemon though, if you don't have it. If it doesn't set, it's used as a fruit puree to flavour home made yoghurt or simply simmered for a little longer till it thickens and sets when cooled. On average, I find enough odds and ends in my pre-planning stocktake to generate two afternoons of snacks, and at least one meal, if not two. If you're not the kitchen creative type, just type your random leftover ingredients into Google, and all kinds of things come up no matter what!   These two little jars of Strawberry and Vanilla Bean jam were made from the saddest ever looking bottoms of two punnets of strawberries, that were buried at the back of the fridge. The colour and aroma is mouthwatering!  

    Write those meals or snacks from your stocktake, plus any extras like the jam, into your menu planner in appropriate spots like Afternoon Tea or whatever.   Now add your breakfasts, according to your schedule. My family get a 'choice' of one cereal. Any more than that, and in a month, I'm throwing out half packets of seven different things. If you're on a budget, one type of cereal is enough, and the least expensive option is always Oats. Not the pre-packaged ones either....although I'll show you how to make your own version of those too. Just plain old generic brand Oats. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that because Uncle Tobys put their Oats in a red box, that they're better. They're just Oats. If your family just won't eat Oats, either as porridge or Bircher Muesli, then something like Weet Bix is the next best option. For health and wellbeing, and for your budget, stay away from the sugary stuff. If they don't like Weet Bix or Oats, find a way to help them like Weet Bix and Oats, honestly. As kids we used to eat Weet Bix topped with peanut butter and honey in Summer, and heated with milk and topped with banana and a drizzle (and I do mean a drizzle) of cream in Winter. These days I like Weet Bix with warmed skim milk, a dollop of home made Greek yoghurt and a drizzle of local honey....scrumptious. You sometimes just have to use your imagination. Oats can be porridge, muesli muffins, muesli breakfast biscuits, Bircher muesli, muesli yoghurt balls, muesli yoghurt parfaits, and so on. All of those are easy to prepare, yummy to eat, and still healthier than most of the breakfast cereals labelled 'healthy'.   My family menu for the week looks like this....  

 

...each day has three meals and snack/s, plus the prep required for tomorrow. If you prep tomorrows meals today, you're always ahead, there's never a rush, and I practically promise that panic and takeaways will become a thing of your past. We eat takeaway maybe twice a year because we love the local Japanese Bento Boxes-to-go. Otherwise, a meal other than home cooked, is more likely to be at a friends home, or a nice restaurant. We can afford nice restaurants if we're not eating takeaway and frozen convenience food....the budget thieves!

 

 

I try hard to fulfil the Healthy Food Pyramid requirements, we eat gluten free, I don't buy supermarket snacks or junk food or soft drink or juice. We prefer to eat whole fruit and drink plain water or tea and I bake our treats. It's a strategy that works for us in every way. Nobody feels deprived, and once you lose the taste for McDonalds or takeaway Pizza, you'll wonder what you ever saw in them....a bit like any bad relationship....lol!

  The main thing is, that we are eating what we enjoy, every single day. NO deprivation and NO budget blowout. You can do the same.   Put one of each of your family's favourite meals into the dinner or weekend lunches column. Try not to have two heavy meals in one day. If you're going to have a lavish lunch or brunch, then have a light dinner. Eat fruit and yoghurt for snacks, adding rice crackers or rice cakes with a bit of dip or cheese if you're hungry. Try also to have a balance of red meat, chicken, fish and vegetable based meals. Not only is it better for your hips, it's better for your hip pocket!   Fill the breakfast columns next, ensuring that you're taking crazy mornings into consideration, and that it's as varied as possible. Nobody will complain too much if there's variety and interest. My family look forward to Muffin morning or Breakfast Parfait morning, as much as their favourite evening meals.   Lastly do lunches because some of you work full time, or part time, or volunteer or have other pressures on your time, so you know best what will work. Remember though that school lunches still have to be prepped and packed so include them too.   Our snacks rely heavily on seasonal fruit, fresh cheese, healthy crisp crackers, and the occasional treat of home baking or icecream. You're the best judge of what will work for your family, but if the fruit bowl is full, and there's some other delectable treats available, you really can do without salty nuts, potato chips and junk food.   Try to wean everyone off sodas and flavoured coffees too. They're calorie heavy and nutritionally devoid. Try drinking water with flavoured ice cubes....mint, strawberry, lemon or lime slivers suspended in ice, not only looks pretty but tastes great. Why would you pay for 'flavoured' water for goodness sakes! You could also try cordial instead of sodas and soft drinks and gradually diminish the amount of cordial you use. That's how we did it.   Plain coffee, if it's quality coffee, is worth the extra money if it saves you on syrups and prepackaged or takeaway coffees. Try to appreciate 'good' brewed coffee without all the additives. Otherwise, what's the point of the coffee? You may as well have flavoured milk.   Take those ideas into consideration in your menu plan too. Add things like 'good brewed coffee' to the breakfast menu, and 'iced water with mint' to the snacks. Being prepared is the key. If you know what you're doing next, you won't be as tempted to waver from the good path...lol!   That's where we'll leave it for today. That's probably information overload as it is!   You now have your menu plan ready to go. On Monday, we'll take the next step and I'll share my prep and shopping strategies, which I hope will help you. Go about this slowly and methodically and it will work for you. It's not worth rushing.   Let me know how you go!  

...Mimi...

 

Living with Depression & Disorganisation #2...Three little challenges..

 

In order to have a peaceful, serene, well organised home, you need a peaceful, serene, well organised mind. And vice versa, really. The two go together like a hand in a glove.

 

That's where depression, for some, messes with that whole idea, I guess. I've heard it described as having all this white noise in your head, all this stuff going on, that you just can't bring to heel and make behave, right? I know in my life, when I've felt overwhelmed, at the end of my tether and out of my depth (which wasn't back then, but is now, called 'Depression'), that's been an accurate description for me.

 

Your ability to manage your thoughts and therefore the day ahead is impaired because you simply can't make those ideas line up in an orderly fashion. In frustration, you just go 'Nup. Too hard. I'm just going to sit here instead.' So you have a day of just sitting, and nothing of a practical nature gets done, and then you realise when you wake up the next day, that nothing has changed, that everything still needs doing but you still can't decide where to start, so you do sit around all day again. It's the inactivity that's the fiend here. That's where that 'spiral' that my friend Annabel mentioned in the comments of my previous post, starts. And it doesn't take long to gather momentum.

 

In that recent post, offering tips to overcome this paralysis and procrastination, which you can read here, I mentioned a strategy that my Mum gave me back in those days. I was a young, overwhelmed Mum of two little babies under 3, and later a single Mum of three sons, the youngest of whom had just been diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy, and I was chronically overwhelmed. She used to say 'Just do one thing Darling, then do one thing more. Try to keep going for as long as you can, just doing one thing and one thing more, and before you know it, things will start looking better. I promise.'

 

This is such great, and fundamental advice, because mostly we don't start a task because it seems too huge. If you're only starting and finishing one small thing at a time, it's easy to see the end in sight, and feel a sense of accomplishment. And she was right. Even if I only managed a dozen things in my day, it would make a difference and things would look and feel more under control very quickly.

 

The other thing she used to drive me nuts with, but that I am eternally thankful to her for, was to make an effort to look nice. This also falls under the heading of 'feeling more in control' for me.

 

Mum was European, and one of her favourite things was dressing up, even if she had nowhere to go. She would do it for herself. She had a vast collection of spectacular costume jewellery, and never left the house without several pieces on show. To this day, I can hear her saying to me 'aren't you going to put on your earrings and a bit of lippy, Darling?'. A 'bit of lippy' and some 'earrings' were apparently the salve to soothe all souls according to Mum.

 

Strangely, this too, worked. The mere act of making an effort to put on earrings and lipstick made, and continues to make me feel more human, and capable.

 

So this week, set yourself these three little challenges.

 

1. Every day for the next seven days, dress up. Do it for you. Like yourself. Value yourself. Wear a bit of lippy. If you don't like lippy (lipstick) then use lip balm or Vaseline, or find another way to look nice. A favourite pair of earrings, a pretty hair ribbon, or paint your fingernails and toenails. See if it makes you feel a little bit  more in control. These are after all things you can control. Work on those, rather than trying to change what is beyond your control.

 

2. Get all of that stuff out of your head, and on to paper. Write down all of the things you need to do so that they do become organised. Quell that paralysing fear that you've forgotten to do something important, by then noting each thing down in order of importance, and numbering them. Number 1 means urgent, overdue or the things you fear most. Number 10 means things that need doing but that can wait. We'll deal with them all soon.

 

3. Each day for the next seven days, do one thing that nurtures you physically. Drink your eight glasses of water, eat your 5 veg and 2 fruit, go for three 10 minute walks in the sunlight. Buy your favourite fruit, hug a loved one for a long time, pat your pet. Re-read a loved childhood book, write a letter, plant a favourite herb in your garden or in a pot on your windowsill. Look through your favourite blogs, make a Christmas list, plan Christmas dinner. It's up to you. But make that time to be kind, healthful and healing in what you do. If you could step outside of yourself, and pretend to be someone else, what would you say or do to comfort the 'other' you? Sometimes we are so busy offering support and healing to others, that we forget to do it for ourselves. Me? I'd tell myself to slow down, to not worry about outcomes for my troubled relative because I cannot change them. I'd give me a hug, and a rub between the shoulder blades and say 'You've done enough. Rest. You deserve it'.

 

So that is what I am doing for the next hour, and next week, and the week after that.

 

And thankyou all for the completely overwhelming response to my recent post offering tips to overcome Depression and Disorganisation. I am pleased that my humble scribblings helped so many of you. Thankyou to each and every one of you, for your lovely emails and comments.

 

 

 ...Mimi...