Following my previous post, I received several messages detailing how difficult it is for some of you, to just 'get in and get stuff done'.
So let's have a think together....
Here's what Getting Stuff Done isn't:
1. Trying to emulate someone on social media...
...yes that includes me.
I mentioned this in my last post, where I encouraged you to just be YOU.
Your life is completely different to mine. You live somewhere different, your circumstances are different, you wishes and hopes and dreams are different. Trying to Get Stuff Done to be just like 'insert persons name', is not going to work...for YOU. Decide what you want your life to look like, and work from there.
If a little clutter, a little dust, a comfortable, homey, slightly chaotic environment is part of who you are, and providing we're talking 'comfortable' and 'healthy', then don't feel pressured into decluttering, rehoming, and reinventing.
2. In that vein, Know Thyself.
There is no doubt in the minds of anyone who knows me, where my preferences for food, art, appliances, travel, reading, clothing, and decor are. I know myself well, so by nature of that, my loved ones know me. They know what to expect from me, they know what gifts are appropriate, and if I were to pop off to the Nevermore tomorrow, they could do justice to my memory without a second thought.
Who are YOU? Are you living a life true to yourself? And if not, is there a way you can change that?
We can change our life in small ways, even if not in greater ones.
3. You can have the life you want.
City living but craving country life? You don't have to relocate to enjoy little bits of country life in your day to day. Use your weekends to explore the smaller communities where you live. Make hiking in the bush part of your regular routine. Bring Country Life into your decor with found items from your hikes, from thrift stores, and flea markets. Grow something...anything. Learn an Heirloom skill. Foster a homeless animal. Become a carer for injured wildlife. Volunteer at a animal shelter. Inject the parts of your imagined Country Life, into your City Life in small ways.
Country woman dreaming of city lights? Join the library and enjoy the glossy magazines at zero cost to you. Follow the Big City Girl type blogs. Keep abreast of events in the city and adapt your budget so that an annual or bi-annual trip to view the Chanel or Matisse or Picasso exhibition is not out of the question. Learn to make your favourite 'city treats' at home. Mine was once avocado on toast and a coffee with cream. Of course, those things are part and parcel of everyones breakfast menu, but they were exotic back in the day! Treats like Flourless orange and almond cake, and Chocolate fondant puddings are ridiculously easy to make, and if it gives you your taste of City Life, then so be it.
What's this got to do with Getting Stuff Done?
Living a life that's not true to self, is guaranteed to be an obstacle when it comes to Getting Stuff Done.
It's a chore if you're doing it because someone else says you should, or because you think you should.
What needs to happen is that you WANT to do it, or even NEED to do it, because your desire for the life you truly want, is so deep and strong, that NOT doing what needs to be done, leaves you feeling frustrated and disappointed.
Write it down.
Can you encapsulate the life you want in a single sentence?
"I want to live a peaceful life, supported by my loved ones, and surrounded by beauty."
That has been my objective and mantra, before I ever knew what an objective or a mantra was. Even as a child, I liked my bedroom 'just so', with my bed made and my curtains tied back with a lavish bow each and every day. It's just part of me.
When you get right down to it though, my life as a child wasn't perfect. There were seven children, and only Mum, and peace and beauty were sometimes thin on the ground. Love never, that was always there. But certainly I can directly tie my need for peace and beauty in my life, to times when those elements were lacking. Those times led to a striving in my adult life, to ensure those elements were a constant, not just for me, but for my own family.
Writing down your ideal life can be complicated. Finding the words can be hard. Even just thinking about it, can bring emotions and memories to the surface that are confronting. If that's the case for you, please do not hesitate to source a mentor, a counsellor, or other support, to ease you through the process of finding your best life.
Because, at the end of the day, we all only get this life once. Make the most of it. Don't, as someone said to me quite recently, do the same thing over and over for 75 years, and call it a life. That had a profound effect on me, spurring me into action on all manner of tasks over which I'd procrastinated for many years. Maybe it will have that effect on you too.
Tonight, go to bed, and dream of what life could be. What your BEST life looks like.
Then tomorrow.....just start....do one thing, then one thing more. Keep going.