On my Tray of Bliss today is this question.
What behaviour am I modelling for my children?
My children are all good and decent human beings. The are kind, caring individuals. They are cautious spenders and careful savers. They all enjoy good food and relish preparing it for friends. They know that one argument does not signal the end of a friendship or relationship. They're well aware that sometimes life just throws you a curve ball, and you have to deal with it, and that collapsing in a heap and claiming 'stress' or 'depression' is not the solution. They know that the best cure for 'stress' or 'depression' is action. They know that politicians, doctors, oncologists and lawyers, are not gods. They too are people and accountable for their decisions and answerable to any and all of us. They give to charity, not just in money and words, but in deed. They give back to the community by being involved with youth in sport or schooling. They work hard when required and celebrate hard when warranted. They value family above all else and respect the right of their siblings to choose the life partner they want without interference. They commemorate the good, the bad, and the sad when necessary and offer up their prayers for others doing the same.
My children do these things because they had significant figures in their life who showed them the way. Grandmother, Uncles and Aunts, Cousins and Teachers, Sports Coaches, Dad and Mum. We have all modelled the good, and frankly sometimes the bad as well. But hopefully the good outweighs that by far.
What are your children or the children you love, learning from you by imitation?
What's on your Tray of Bliss today?
A few off ther top of my head...
ReplyDeleteI would like to hope that they are learning from me resillancy, to have an open heart, compassion, kindness, to have a go, to try new things, to give your very best at all times, to not stand in judgement of others, to speak gently not harshly, to worship/take care of their mind/body/soul, to be the kind of friend you would wish for, that you are never too old for a hug, the universe may not deliver the exact life you hoped/planned for but that's ok, to let friends and family know often how special they are using words and deeds, to "be" in the moments of their days and not wish their lives away, to seek healthy relationships based on love and respect and to try to find happiness in the smallest of things.